There are many who have a delusional view of self esteem.
It is not about thinking you are more or better than you actually are. There are some who think having a high self esteem means thinking they are prettier, smarter, etc. than they really are. This gives a falsehood about ones self. That is never a good thing.
The root of having high self esteem is knowing who you truly are. I call this 'self awareness'. Being aware of your thoughts, feelings, memories, and so on, so forth. The list goes on forever.
But self esteem is even more than that. See, it's not just about knowing who you are and being ok with it. That gives no sense of growth, no feeling to better yourself. That would be like saying, 'yeah, I am a bad husband or wife, I lack the ability to really appreciate my partner, but I am ok with it, because that's me'. See, again, just doesn't sound like the full truth of things. Something is missing.
So I have concluded that the following is what having a high self esteem is: It is about knowing yourself completely, even your imperfections, knowing how much you need to grow and change and improve, and being ok with that. Being ok with the fact you have a long road ahead of you. But you know two things, where you are on that road and that you won't stop traveling forward down that road.
Having a high self esteem takes a lot of work. Most people do not want to put in the time to do that. So they either lack it or fake it by bringing others down or changing what is actually 'right' in their world so they won't be 'wrong'. (that's probably a need for a whole new blog)
