a gift and a curse

So not sure if anyone has seen the TV show Monk. It is about a genius detective who has major OCD. It helps him solve cases but of course makes it hard for him to cope in society. He says it is 'a gift and a curse'.
I feel that way also about something. It seems that I have the ability to see a little deeper into things, a little past the obvious. In so doing, I see truth or 'non'-truths. It is great because it helps me realize what is right and what is wrong. But at the same time, it is depressing when no one around you sees those same things so clearly. Now when pointed out they see and understand. But not until then.
This may at first not seem like that big of a deal. But what if a friend, colleague, or worse, someone who you are in a relationship with, can not see these things. So they continuously do the wrong thing. Not only that, but they continuously don't see it. Now for most people this is ok. I believe most people are in a relationship with someone that is either as smart or as dumb as the other.(which ever way you want to look at it) That may sound like a bad thing, but it is good. That way the other person is on the same level. It is an equal relationship.
But let us be honest with ourselves. There are different levels of a relationship and definitely different types of people in those relationships. It isn't just if you are a good or bad boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. There are many different degrees.
The problem is this: as your degree in a relationship increases, and this is measured by many things, common sense, self sacrifice, understanding, listening ability, etc., the number of people who match that degree decreases. It is what they call an indirect relationship. As one increases, the other decreases. So your chances of randomly running into someone who is at your level, or someone you can really relate to and be in an equal relationship with, drastically lessens.
So referring to my statement earlier, it is a gift and a curse.